6 Things Happy Couples Do
Let’s be honest, the stone cold truth is that not every couple is happy. Those who are haven’t gotten to that level on accident. They’ve worked really hard to get to a place where they can build and maintain their loving relationship. Every couple is different, of course. While some couples might want to get out and hike every mountain out there, that might be a Netflix-loving couple’s worst nightmare. No matter how different your combined tastes and styles might be, we’re all out there looking for the key to a happy marriage. Here are some things that happy couples do on the daily.
THEY EVALUATE THEIR EXPECTATIONS
The first thing to realize is that not every day will be shiny and full of roses. Sometimes you’re going to fight. Sometimes you’re not going to get what you need from your partner. Sometimes you will have to ditch the stubbornness and really open your vulnerable side. And that’s ok. Normal, healthy even. Realizing that rocky waters are ahead, partners know to support each other during the ups and downs.
THEY FOCUS MORE ON WHAT THEIR PARTNER DOES RIGHT THAN WHAT THEY DO WRONG
Sure, your partner is going to mess up. But really recognizing them for the things they’re doing right can make them feel good while also realizing what you need in a relationship. Happy couples accentuate the positive.
THEY CHECK IN THROUGHOUT THE DAY
When you get a text or a message from your partner, your spirits get an immediate boost. When we get a “hi” or “I miss you” or “I’m thinking about you” from our partner, it makes us feel like we are their number one priority. It makes us feel secure in the emotional relationship and that they have our backs. Even when you aren’t together, it’s important to share that the relationship means everything.
THEY HAVE UNINTERRUPTED QUALITY TIME TOGETHER
This might sound like an easy ask at first, but once life sets in, it can really clutter up your schedule. The happiest couples soak up quality time for no less than 15 minutes a day (Lesli Doares, Blueprint For A Lasting Marriage). Quality time means removing the distractions such as tv, text messages, work, kids, or emails and really spending some WE time.
The best way to do this is doing something that excites you both – hiking, a drink at your favorite bar, a nice dinner (or making dinner together), a game night alone, the possibilities are endless. Set aside a specific day of the week for “date night” and don’t book over it! Take that time to really settle in and spend time with each other.
THEY HAVE A LAUGH
It’s the age old phrase, “couples who laugh together, stay together.” Ok ok it might not be age old, but it’s pretty great advice. Sharing something funny you saw and texting it to your partner or sharing an inside joke is an easy way to keep thing positive. We all love to laugh and those small, positive interruptions during the day can really go a long way to making you both feel more connected.
THEY GIVE EACH OTHER AT LEAST ONE SINCERE COMPLIMENT EVERY DAY
We all want to know that we are valued and loved. This doesn’t fade just because we’ve been in a relationship for a long time. Regular compliments not only gives our love a confidence boost, but it also sets aside time for us to learn more about our partner. If we take the time to identify what makes them special, then we’re continuing to commit to them.
Not taking your partner for granted is so important in a happy relationship. Continuing to reaffirm your partner about how amazing they are and your feelings toward them will no doubt make them feel special and more likely to reflect the same feelings onto you.
*Psychology Today, The Seven Things that Happy Couples Do *Psychology Today, 10 Habits of Happy Couples *Brides, The Happiest Couples Do These 7 Things Every Day